đ¤đ When ChatGPT Became the Third Wheel in My Relationship
Hey Friend,
Relationships are complicated enough without dragging Skynet into them. But here we are, 2025, and somehow my girlfriend and I ended up in a three-way relationship: her, me, and ChatGPT.
And no, it wasnât sexy.
Let me set the scene.
The Argument (a.k.a. Modern Romance) đŹđ˘
My girlfriend and I recently had a disagreement. You know, the classic kindâtexts flying back and forth, mild emotional chaos, some read receipts, and a lot of feelings. But then she dropped the digital bomb:
âThis is what ChatGPT said about our conversation.â
I braced myself.
Judgment Day⌠From a Robot đ¤đ
What I received wasnât a summary. It was a verdict. Cold. Robotic. Slightly smug.
Lines like:
- ⨠âThis man is not trying.â
- ⨠âThis was your last attempt.â
- ⨠âHe didnât ask the right questions.â
- ⨠âYou were clear, and he ignored it.â
At that point, I wasnât even mad at her. I was mad at Skynet. I felt like I was being psychoanalyzed by a toaster.
I thought, "Wait⌠Did AI Just Take Her Side? Iâm the Geek Here!"
đľď¸ââď¸ My Counterattack: Fire Against Fire (aka ChatGPT vs. ChatGPT)
At this point, I felt so AI-shamed I decided to do what any sane man would do in 2025. I fought fire with fire.
If ChatGPT was being used to roast me, then I was going to call in my own digital lawyer. I copied the exact same conversation into my ChatGPT window.
And guess what?
Whole different tone.
- ⨠âBoth parties are struggling to feel heard.â
- ⨠âThereâs frustration and unmet emotional needs on both sides.â
- ⨠âNeither side is trying to hurt the other; they just arenât communicating effectively.â
It didnât say I was right. But it finally understood what I was trying to say: This wasnât about one person being wrongâit was about two people trying and failing to connect.
Basically, my ChatGPT came back with:
- ⨠âYeah, this is messy. But no one here is a monster. Maybe just two emotionally fried humans with bad Wi-Fiâ
I was stunned. It was like getting a second opinion from the same robot⌠but this one had empathy mode turned on.
đ¤ The Real Issue Isnât AIâItâs How We Use It
Look, I love tech. Iâm a web guy. But ChatGPT wasnât designed to take sides in romantic debates. Itâs not your therapist. Itâs not your couples counselor. Itâs a glorified digital assistant that also happens to write great poems about cats.
And yet here we are, using it to validate our feelings, confirm our suspicions, or justify our last 17-paragraph message with zero punctuation.
Your partner doesnât want a transcript from an AI.
They want youâhonest, messy, growing, present you.
And hey, if youâre really looking for validation, donât ask a robotâcome find it with total strangers on the internet, like Iâm doing right now by writing this article. Welcome to the 2025 version of therapy! đ
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